“In terms of the Doctor and the companion, we’ve done the fairytale version, we’ve done the romantic version… but this is the real-life version. What would it actually be like in real life if an intelligent, off-centre girl happened to meet a much older - to say the least - dangerous man, who whisked her away and took her to some terrible places? What would that turn you into? I don’t think that would necessarily improve you. It would improve you in some ways, but… she’s never going to comfortably fit back into the boring world.”—
Steven Moffat - Dark Water/Death In Heaven Preview (DWM 479)
This is for people who think Moffat doesn’t know what he’s doing.
After reading about gender-bias and conversation dominance in the classroom, I asked for a peer to observe a physics class I was teaching and keep track of the discussion time I was giving to various students along with their race and gender. In this exercise, I knew I was being observed and I was trying to be extra careful to equally represent all students―but I STILL gave a disproportionate amount of discussion time to the white male students in my classroom (controlling for the overall distribution of genders and races in the class). I was shocked. It felt like I was giving a disproportionate amount of time to my white female and non-white students.
Even when I was explicitly trying, I still failed to have the discussion participants fairly represent the population of the students in my classroom.
This is a well-studied phenomena and it’s called listener bias. We are socialized to think women talk more than they actually do. Listener bias results in most people thinking that women are ‘hogging the floor’ even when men are dominating.
Implicit bias is a thing, just like privilege. Calling it out isn’t meant to shame anyone, but to alert us to step it up and improve ourselves so everyone can have a voice. Be conscious of what you and others are saying, and know when not to speak.
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A man just walked past me and said “excuse me, but you look very nice tonight darlin” I said thank you and he said you’re welcome and walked off. And that is how you compliment a woman without harassing them
No, that is still unsolicited, and thus, harassment. No amount of “darlins” is gonna make me not want to punch your ass for coming on to me without provocation.